I mean its like, "Hey! Ima Dad now! erm ... but what kinda stuffs should I do as a father huh?" What is the adjustment I should make in order for me to be a father to my son? Am I totally ready for this?
I later found out that, you can never be ready to be a father .... there isnt a book in this entire farking sick world that tells you how to be a father and after a while of looking for such answer I gave up.
4 years later I found my answer .... to be a father you just hafta love your child, just be a father. Of course sacrifices hafta be made, you dont get to go out for much mamak sessions, very little karaoke parties, cut down on mahjong tiles and many many more. With all the time saved from all those *extra-curriculum activites* you spend it with your child, teach him, guide him, shape him, mould him so he would grow up to be a healthy person both physically and mentally.
Young parents nowadays are abit different in thinking, I know quite a few couple who would just leave their kid with the nanny for most of the weekdays and will only bring the kid back on weekends. Their excuse? No time la! troublesome la! with the baby around I cant go out with my friends, I got shopping to do, aiyah! I hafta work so that i would be able to pay the nanny. Those are the regular excuses that i have been getting from those parents only met their kid once a week. I really do not think such a people should be call father or mother, the correct name for them would be Birth Giver, for they only know how to give birth to a child but they do not know that to be a proper parents.
Such peoples thought the job of a father would only be limited to provide for the child financially and the nanny would take care of the rest, if only life were that easy. Later when the kid screw up then they will blame the kid for his bad behaviour but have they ever ask themself "What had i teached him all these while? Where did he learnt all these bad behaviours from? No one ever told him that what he did was wrong? Where am I all these while?"
4 years ago I was in holland with my late boss together with his youngest son attending to a global seminar, he wanted to groom his youngest son and expose him to the business enviroment so that one day he could take over his position. Then come one evening he saw something in the rubbish bin in his hotel room, it was a brand new Calvin Klien underwear his son just opened this morning. That night he had an arguement with his son and he dragged me out for a drink, that is when he told me this "I think I m quite a succesful businessman, but I am a terrible father. "
If given the choice, what would you choose?
Anyone could celebrate father's day BUT do you truly deserves it? That is entirely a different question.
On the other hand, do you noticed how commercialised father's day is nowadays? There is this Radio advertisement that were presented by a lady in her half bake canto telling you that you should buy your oldman a massage chair if you wanna show to him that you are a fillial son.
What a bunch of crap! Seriously dude! If you think father's day is the only day you care about your oldman then pulez drop dead now and spare us the oxygen. I seriously think this mother's day, father's day celebration is solely meant to boost sales nationwide. Suddenly everyone bcome so fillial ledi, everyone buying gifts for their oldman and bringing him out to expensive restaurant for dinner. Why suddenly so nice ledi one ar? or maybe bcoz they wanna show off to their neighbours/relatives how rich they are?
If you dint know yet, you are allowed to tell your dad how much you love him every single day and not only on father's day ok? so, dont be so fake and act all goody goody boy when on a regular day you dont even remember your oldman is still alive!
How Am I gonna celebrate father's day? I prolly would just stay at home and resume my daily life as usual, I dont hafta do anything extraordinary for my oldman just because its father's day .... I am doing that every single day of my life!
Before I end this boring post of mine, I would like to share with you all a joke that durex sent me last year :
A Father's Day message brought to you by the award winning condom in USA - DUREX! :
To all those who used or uses our competitor's products all these while, HAPPY FATHER's DAY !!!! "
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Happy Father's Day to all blogging DADs and to Fathers all over the world.